In our culture it’s considered normal to make a resolution to make some kind of positive change in your life. The new year resolution, for most people, usually lasts until the end of January and then it’s discarded as another failed attempt at nothing in particular.
How can you avoid this failure to adhere to your resolution?
First of all, don’t make a resolution for the sake of it, this is where most people go wrong.
See, if you set a goal but that goal doesn’t come from a deeply personal place it will never resonate with you on an emotional level and you’ll not do what it takes to get there. Too many people set a resolution or goal based on the expectations of others.
Thoughts become behaviours and behaviours determine your reality. If your behaviours are based not on your own thoughts and desires but the expectations of other people, society or what you think others expect from you, then you’re not creating your own reality.
It strikes me that many people are simply trying to paper over the cracks. Let’s take the goal of weight loss as an example.
You resolve to lose 3 stone. But do you know why you want to lose 3 stone? I mean REALLY know? The 3 stone might be the goal but it’s not the reason and that is what you need to work out.
Now, you need to know what’s involved in achieving this goal. You’re reading a health and fitness magazine so I’ll assume that these things are important to you. Therefore, you won’t be doing some silly ‘detox’ or faddy crash diet that only results in the loss of muscle, energy and libido. A healthy and sustainable rate of weight loss is achieved at about 1-2lb of fat per week. 3 stone is 42 lbs, that’s 21-42 weeks! So be realistic about your weight loss, after all it probably took you far long to put it on, it doesn’t just happen overnight losing it all, takes patience and commitment.
So, now that you have a target and realistic expectations of what is involved you need a plan. What does it take to lose 1-2lb of fat per week, consistently over a course of months? A sensible and sustainable diet that isn’t boring or restrictive and an exercise regime that is fun and complements your goal. No need for twice daily HIIT sessions, just be sensible.
So, you see, there’s a lot to consider. Half assed resolutions are pointless, but well defined goals with a plan are powerful.
You see, long term results require long term adherence which means a different approach in terms of lifestyle. Papering over the cracks just isn’t going to cut it. Change is hard, it’s intimidating but it’s also incredibly rewarding when you reach your goals.
So, instead of plucking a resolution out of the air make a promise to yourself to be more resolute, to aim for self-improvement and empowerment. Life is a journey so make it a good one.
Here are three simple steps to get you started with some real momentum:
Think of an aim – what do you want to achieve? Let’s use the example of weight loss
OK, now put a number on it – by how much do you want things to change? Let’s say a stone
What do you need to change, that you can change in the next 2 weeks, to start moving towards that goal? This needs to be something you can do. Something you will do. It might only be small – a 30 minute walk every day and drinking more water, or it might be a big thing like joining the gym. The point is to just change something you CAN and WILL change, then go from there. In two weeks time, pick another thing and keep moving forward.
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